Take for example the story of the "American Sniper" Chris Kyle who was murdered on the shooting range by a fellow war veteran. Kyle spent his time helping veterans deal with combat-related stress and mental health issues. Who would ever have thought that his passion for social justice, for helping others would cost him his life?
When you choose to love someone who is damaged..you take on the weight of their past and their pain.
I have been riveted by the horrific story of Dr.Theodore Norvell, the St. John's University engineer professor who suffered life-threatening stab wounds during an attack while visiting his sister's family in California.
Norvell's 17 year-old nephew and brother-in-law were killed in the brutal attack which occurred in the early Sunday morning. at his sisters home. His sister was seriously injured as well. The attacker was his nephews best-friend, and high-school buddy, who the family had taken in.
Media reports in the Press Democrat and Times-Standard indicate The 19-year-old killer/attacker was reported to have been in the foster care placement system for much of his life and had been living with the family for over a year. Norvell's nephew had talked his parents into taking the boy into their home after he go into trouble with his foster mother. The family took him in, supported him, helped him with his education. They treated him like a son.
The tragic story seems to make no sense at all. No motive has been established.
As a parent, I can imagine a scenario where one of my boys friends had a falling out with their parents and wanting to "help-out". In my world there is no such thing as too much love. Every family situation is a little different but some kids just do not have a chance. They are given a raw deal from the get go - but a little love, a little attention, a little guidance can assist them in having a full, well-balanced life. Where do you draw the line? To what extent do welcome "external problems" into your own home?
Caring - fixing, helping and serving speaks to our humanity. We cannot serve at a distance. In helping we may find a sense of satisfaction; in serving we find a sense of gratitude.
Helping others help themselves is noble.
It’s in our DNA to be protective, to care for those we perceive as wounded. People who go after others who are damaged care more for other people than they do themselves. We want to show them that they deserve to be loved
It would be sad world without good noble people, which makes this tragedy all the more horrible.