I am a past Grand Knight of the Knights of Columbus, a former member of parish councils, co-founder of the Catholic Youth League and have marched in a number of pro-life events at the Confederation Building.
I have never protested outside a medical clinic or attempted to enforce my belief that life begins at conception on anyone else.
I believe life begins at conception. That it is a miraculous miracle. That from the moment those cells start dividing our RNA/DNA provides the road map for the development of a human being. An abortion does end life. It prevents the completion of this process. Of that I cannot argue.
I know that had Kris decided to abort when we unexpectedly created Aidan, that he would not have evolved to become the boy he is. My life might have turned out a little more different. As a father of three boys, the author of three lives, I am aghast at the thought that each of those lives could have been snuffed out before they began.
My membership in these Roman Catholic organizations and my personal stand on abortion are quite the paradox.
In the secular world, I believe that as a man, I have no say what-so-ever over another person’s body. The courts have ruled, I respect the law of the land. Access to medical procedures protected by our health system should be accessible and not manipulated by religious zealots.
In the religious world, I feel that many anti-abortionists are hypocritical. The sanctity of life, at all costs is completely unreasonable. However, I do not feel that it is my place to judge others. If there is a God, I expect that she will be compassionate and judge our lives based on the totality of our actions. It is an issue for between the individual and their god or universe.
That said, I am not at all comfortable with women aborting life because they are not responsible enough to raise children, feel that a fetus is just blood clots, or they can not face telling their parents that they had sex. I think that archaic medical committees designed to determine if your personal circumstances and eligibility for a medical procedure belong in the past.
If a woman chooses to have an abortion, it is a decision that she will have to live with the rest of her life. Is that not hard enough? Who are we to tell her that it is not ok, that she does not have the right to decide what happens with her own body?
I am pro-choice and pro-life. It is not black and white to me but there appears to be little room for compromise.
In the end I am a male.
Reproductive decisions are not mine to make.